How to recognize the lie of the interlocutor, 4 basic signs.

How to recognize the lie of the interlocutor, 4 basic signs.

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You can’t hide the truth. Probably, many people at least once in their lives dreamed of having the ability to read other people’s thoughts and recognize a lie. Alas, no one can do it (except perhaps polygraph examiner), but similar desires gave rise to numerical experiments in the field of psychology, which helped to develop common rules for the behavior of people in certain situations.

Simply put, what would be the financial situation of a person, as if a millionaire or a beggar, no matter what type of activity he was engaged in (although in space, though gardening), a simple human soul, which has its own emotions transmitted by body language, is hidden under expensive costumes or a working uniform. Thus, both the rich and the poor, and the schoolteacher and the football player, use the same set of gestures, which, of course, arise subconsciously, otherwise these people would exclude such characteristic “evidence” from their behavior.

Gestures give all

How this whole mechanism works is very easy to understand in children. We will not delve into biology, just give an example. When a child does not want to hear anything, especially parental educational “lectures”, he closes his ears. When a child does not want to see something, for example, an animal on TV that scares him, he covers his eyes with his hands. When a child is deceiving, he puts his hand to his mouth, as if trying to stop his lies.
And interestingly, adults are no different from children, except that over the years the movements of the limbs become less pronounced and more refined. Hand gestures in the face area show lies, but not always. Just seeing a suspicious “signal” be alert.

What does this mean?

This means that the gesture, in which the hand is presented to the person, can also speak of doubt, uncertainty or exaggeration. In any case, it has a negative imprint and the person, at least, feels uncomfortable. Also, do not forget that a separate gesture does not mean anything. For example, it is known that a person can change the size of the pupil when he lies. But even if you noticed such changes (which is very difficult to do), then perhaps the ray of the sun hit your interlocutor and the pupil decreased due to the influence of light. You need to look at all the signs in the aggregate.

Symptom No. 1. Covering the mouth with a hand

This is the same childish gesture when the palm closes the inside of the mouth and the thumb is pressed to the cheek. Also, often people, especially men, cover their mouths with their fists, which is characteristic of coughing. But this position of the hand should not be confused with the evaluative gesture, when the index finger is directed to the temple, and the folded fingers rest on the chin.

Do not brush your nose. Sign of lie №2

A light touch to the nose or finger manipulation in the mouth area is another traitor, betraying his master. A person can touch as with one finger (happens very quickly) or with several fingers.
“And if you just itch your nose?” – you ask. Well, if this is true, then a person naturally removes irritation with a second hand movement. But if he lies, then the touch will be fleeting. Also make such a gesture can those who doubt the words of his interlocutor.

Even the actors know the hallmark of lie number 3

Subconsciously wanting to escape, will protect itself from the person to whom you are lying, you may have a desire to rub your eyelid. Men do this somewhat clumsily and vigorously, looking to the side or to the floor, women are more delicately doing a maneuver, afraid to damage makeup, lifting their eyes upwards. But in life these signs are difficult to see, they are more popular in the world of cinema, where the actors, wishing to convey a lie, rub their eyelids.

When it gets hot. Sign of lie number 4

When a person lies, he may experience itchy sensations on the neck or face. Therefore, men in business suits often detract from the collar of their shirts or make their ties looser, suspecting that they have been exposed. In addition, being in nervous tension, sweat drops on the neck of a liar. A gesture may also accompany anger or concern about the course of affairs. In this case, the collar is drawn off for fresh air and is not a sign of deception.

Other ways to tell lies

As mentioned above, all signs must be assessed together. In addition to the factor of the face and hands – the most important identifier of lies, movements of the whole body may indicate dishonesty. Sitting on a chair and fidgeting, a person can also be a liar, but also do not exclude the fact of ordinary excitement. How many chairs rubbed under the awkward applicants for work in the office at the interview! Follow other gestures and make a conclusion.
Also, do not believe a person who is confused with the facts. In forensic science, the suspect is asked to tell about the course of events in order, and then back to front. Liars always show themselves at the last stage. If you are not an investigator on assignment, try to ask a little question about the details of the case in the person in whose decency you doubt. Put specific questions with a possible answer – yes, no – so as not to give him a chance to wash your eyes and get away from questioning.

And if I am mistaken in conjectures?

You may well be mistaken, so newcomers in this case are not recommended to rely entirely on their own conclusions. It is possible to develop good lie recognition skills only through practice and practice again. In no case do not put a stigma on a person – a liar, only on the basis of your observations. The results of the behavioral analysis are just an excuse to check the terms of the agreement with a partner, once again review the documents, and finally make inquiries about the person.

The good news is that you have the opportunity to learn to understand body language almost everywhere. Eat the subway or bus? Take a closer look at people who are talking to each other. Try to understand their emotions: joy, sadness, confusion, indifference. Look at the position of your hands, fingers, “try on” the signs of lies that you already know. Ask yourself: Are these people sincere with each other? Watch people on TV, talk shows are great, where, as a rule, there are conflicting opinions. Try to understand which of the guests of the studio is extremely sincere.